Wed. Apr 14th, 2021

By O.C. Marler


First let me say that your kids are not different in the way that you are thinking. They are different, however, in that they are in the most difficult place conceivable.

Your children feel the pressure to be different, but they don’t want to be. They just want to be kids. Pressure to be spiritual leaders is probably the number one cause of backsliding among preachers’ children. And how can you make them live for God? That in itself is quite a trick, since the Bible says we each have a free will.

Young people forced to be examples — denied a normal childhood — face a much greater chance of rebelling later on, even in their 30’s and 40’s.

Preachers’ children should not necessarily receive special attention at church just because they are P.K.’s (often they find it embarrassing)/ But then, neither should they be held back from special appointments, or other opportunities.

Don’t worry. They’ll have enough pressure from their peers and the older saints without getting it from home too. When other children get by with things for which yours are punished, the inconsistency hurts.

Remember that your husband is pastor. God has called him, not the children. They might not even be saved yet. All their lives they will hear, “You mean your a preacher’s kid, and you did that?” And they will want to answer, “No, I did it just like you did.”

So my advice is this: teach them to the best of your ability to be a Christian. Don’t put more on them than is necessary. Be real. Be quiet. And have faith for the best.