Sex before marriage in the world is very common. It can be with many sex partners or your fiancé using the excuse, “We will be married soon. What difference does it make?” The difference is God! God gives the gift of sex to married couples only with His full blessing!
God considers having sex outside of marriage fornication. The Greek word for fornication is: porneia – the root word for pornography. Having sex before marriage robs (despoils) the marriage of its sacredness in the sight of God. The marriage has been defrauded before it begins.
In my 24 years of being a Certified Pastoral Counselor, I have counseled many couples that engaged in premarital sex. The pressure to have premarital sex usually starts with the male. Most females are reluctant, but do not have enough of God-worth in their heart to say, “No!”
So, gals, listen up! If your boyfriend or fiancé tries to “love talk” you into premarital sex, he is not asking for sex because he loves and cares about you. He is asking for sex because of his lustful selfishness. That selfish attitude and spirit will be the ruin of a marriage. He is not being spiritual and will not be the God-leader of the home that God demands.
NOTE: PLEASE GO TO www.carolclemans.org to read the completion of this article: What despoils a marriage? I write about porn addiction, the negatives of premarital sex, teaching youth sexual purity. Pastors and parents, let’s become equipped to give our Holy Ghost youth the tools to resist the devil’s temptations of lust. Life is short and eternity is forever. We must prepare our youth to be holy as He is holy!
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